This one wasn’t as difficult, but I’m not sure I had to go as deep for it either.
- Exercise more (I try to honestly, but my life is chaotic with a new baby, and trying to balance school, and work, and life. Exercise gets pushed to the back burner. Today in fact I was planning on going to the gym with my brother-in-law, and forgot my gym clothes. Even though I haven’t been getting around to exercising, my wife and I have been making a point of trying to be more active and have spent our weekends, and some of our nights after work taking long walks with the baby.)
- Eat better (This isn’t as difficult as I make it seem, the truth is that when I eat well I don’t feel satiated properly. This I have found is probably also due to lack of exercise. I’ve been noticing on days when I’m active this problem is significantly less.)
- Look on the bright side (I’m a pretty negative person. I have always been a fan of comedy, and wanted to get into it for a long time, and being negative in a funny way was what I thought comedy was. So I began to complain, and grumble, sometimes about things I legitimately liked, and in the process, I’ve talked myself out of liking things that I used to like. I should—and am going to start—trying to talk myself into liking things. It may not be as funny to be positive, but it will make my life better.)
- Worry less (I’m a little bit of a Chicken Little. I get consumed in something bad that’s happening, and I’m sure that it is a sign that even worse is coming. I worry about almost everything, and I know it’s not healthy for me.)
- Do/give more (So I mean in regards to charity, or improving the world. I give a little bit, but certainly not enough. I really want to make the world a better place, and right now my contribution consists of being outspoken about the issues I believe are important, and giving food occasionally. I need to do more.)
- Go outside more (I’ve been going outside more lately, but I’m still not sure it’s enough. My son can’t crawl or walk yet, and I think once he can do that, I’ll be outside even more. But I have a tendency to stay in and watch TV after work, and I should probably cut back on that.)
- Write more (No matter how much I do get to do these exercises every day, or work on my thesis, or write short stories in what little free time I have, there is always more to write than time to write it.)
- Be social (I see my immediate family and in-laws pretty often, but in the last couple years my hanging out with friends has diminished almost to nothing. There are a few reasons, a lot of my friends moved away from Massachusetts, and the ones that remain have kids and so we have a hard time fitting each other in. There is another reason though… I don’t want to. I’m pretty content just seeing my wife and son, and occasionally seeing my parents and my sister. I don’t feel the need to see almost anyone else, and only force myself out of obligation. This isn’t to mean that I dislike the people, in fact when I push myself to go out and see people, I do enjoy it most of the time, but I never want to go hang out.)
- Save money (I have a 401k, and a college savings account for my son, but I could be saving more. The problem that I’m facing is trying to find a good balance between living in the moment, while at the same time not completely burning through the potential for the future. I guess I need to earn more, but I’m pretty happy for the moment.)
- Travel more (This one almost totally contradicts the saving money one, but I do tend to be more active, and outside when I’m traveling so those are good. The truth is I’ve been lucky to be able to travel a good amount, but I still want to travel more. I want to see a lot more of the US, and Europe. I could honestly go to Italy every year if I had the money, and I want to live in LA, but since I know I’m most likely never going to commit to it, I like traveling there when possible. My wife and I have traveled a lot together, and we’re a good match for how we like to travel, and now that we have a baby, we’re a little more limited in our travel options, but so far with long day trips he’s been great. I think we’re taking him on his first flight next month, so we’ll get a feel for how that is and hopefully we can continue!)
Well that’s my top 10 things I should be doing that I’m not. What did you think? What are some things that you should be doing that you’re not?