Daily Calendars and The Danger of 365 Days of Planning

On New Year’s Day, my wife and I were going to go out and do some shopping.  We just needed to get out of the house, and it was too cold to do anything truly ‘outside.’  So we ended up at Barnes and Noble, and while we had each got our share of calendars as Christmas gifts, my wife suggested I get some kind of daily calendar.  You know these calendars that you remove a sheet each day, and there is some fun joke, or fact, or word each day.  The reason she suggested it, was because I used to love these calendars.

On a few occasions, I’ve purchased for myself daily calendars mostly containing the ‘italian word or phrase of the day’ in an attempt to learn Italian.  It’s a fun way of passing the time, and I put it on my desk at work, and I always enjoy them, for the first few months at least.

When she suggested that I buy one, my response to her was “I’ve never finished a whole calendar” because I end up leaving a job and it goes in a box for ‘later’.  When I got laid off in 2016, there was just a month and a half left in the year, and we found the calendar months later.  Before that, I left a job I hated and the calendar got lost in the process.

So, in one of my rare fits of superstition, I decided not to buy a daily calendar, for fear that I would not end the year at my job.  Don’t get me wrong, there are a ton of options in which that is a great thing, and I won’t fight it if something amazing comes along, but I guess it was mostly out of a fear of losing this job.  I enjoy where I am work-wise, and while it isn’t perfect, it’s pretty damn good, one of the best atmosphere’s that I’ve been in a long time, and I don’t want to lose that.

Also, I don’t want the job to become something I hate and then lose.  That happened at my last job, it was a great job, with a great atmosphere, and then the last 6 months were terrifying, and ultimately ended in me getting laid off.  I don’t think it makes it better when the job deteriorates first.

I just realized— just now, while I’m writing this— that I’m starting 2018 from a place of fear.  Which totally isn’t what I feel like overall, I’m very excited about where I’m at, and where I think I’m going, but ultimately I just don’t want to make any plans for work that consume the next 365 days.

Happy New Years everyone!  Don’t worry like me!

Last Week of the Year

2017 was a crazy year, right?

For me personally, 2017 was an insane ride that was mostly positive.  This past year, I got my Master’s Degree; I watched my son learn to walk, to talk, and interact with other kids; my wife, son, and I moved from Massachusetts at the end of their winter to North Carolina at the beginning of their summer (seriously, we skipped a season this year); I got a job at a really cool company; I got a second job as an assistant editor at a publishing house, and have edited two novels; I helped World’s Best Media start, and then became an regular contributor; I started a time-travel blog that currently covers nearly a year of content and is almost a high enough word-count to constitute a novel; I started the process of re-branding, and relaunching Chocolate Diamond Media.

In addition to all of that, I’ve been writing to all of you, and I’ve been having a great time.  When I was young, and would express an interest in writing, I was told by teachers, and every other adult under the sun, that I should start journalling.  I would pick up a notebook, and write an entry, and put it down and never pick it up again.  For some reason, the idea never fit me quite right.  Then in this last year, I took this blog, which I had originally intended as a place to post my short stories, and I started putting my thoughts out to all of you.  I’ve been mostly unfiltered this last year, but I rarely wanted to just write about my day, and I think that was what had been missing from my journalling experience.  I didn’t know I could write with purpose in a journal format.  That’s what I’ve tried to do this past year on here.  It has been an excellent experience, and thank you all for your responses, and reading what I have had to say.

As 2018 begins, I’m really excited about the possibilities, and the things that will change and grow.  This last year really showed me in a lot of cases that set-backs can be temporary, and I need to keep moving forward.  I was laid-off at the end of 2016, and started 2017 really nervous about my future.  Now, a year later, I’m thrilled.  I have a job that I like, and I’m working towards projects and jobs that I love.

What about you?  I know 2017 has been tumultuous politically, but in your personal life, in your goals and accomplishments, was it a good year or a bad year?  What are you looking forward to most in 2018?

I hope you all have a very happy New Year!  Thanks for reading.